Thursday, October 15, 2009

Remember, again

I'm always asking for something, it seems.

I originally started this post to ask you to please, please vote for my blog (over and over... you can vote as many times as you want). I'm nominated on the Bump for Best Multiples Mommy Blog, and I'm up against some really really good blogs, written by amazing women who I know and like. It's really exciting! That said - I want to win!! It has really good prizes.... I would love the $1,000, man, could we use that....

Best Multiples Blog: The Finalists

Then I remembered, today is also Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Day. If you could, please light a candle at 7pm for all the babies lost, all the families out there who remember every single day, will never forget for even a moment the baby they lost.

I read a lot of blogs, I'm a junkie. And there a few that I just adore, they are 'friends in my head' as Wendy Williams would say. I realized that these blogs are all very different but all have one common thread - they are all written by women who've lost a child. It's a club we're all in, that no one would ever ask to join. But I thank God for the other women in it, who understand.

The writings of Kate especially some days seems to come straight out of my head. It's like she is able to see inside, to what I'm thinking, put all my jumbled craziness down on paper far more eloquently than I'm ever able to. The site Glow in the Woods is also the most amazing, amazing place, the most honest, painful, raw, beautiful words you can ever imagine reading on the loss of a child.

Today, on this day of remembering, if you want to understand a little bit better what it's like to walk in these shoes every day, read this. Please. When I won the Best Writing Award a couple weeks ago, or when someone leaves a note saying they think I write well, the first thing I think of is Kate and almost feel embarrassed. Read and see, see what truly incredible writing is really like.

So thank you for remembering my Jack today, and please, remember Abigail, and Spencer, and Ames, and Maddie, and the Doodles, and Matteo, and Annaleigh, and Liam and Sydney and Carynne and so so many other sweet babies who've been lost.

And the saddest part of today for me was realizing how since last year, that list has grown so much longer.


Linda said...

Glow in the Woods is an amazing amazing blog.

Good luck with the contest Megan!!!!

Meg said...

"Friend in my head" is so appropriate! Love that term. I voted for your blog of course; I love it.

-from a fellow Megan whose son was born the day after yours on 10/12/07.

Busted said...

Remembering Jack with you. Thank you for remembering our Doodles too.

Rebecca Nixie said...

Remembering your lil Jack today and always. You are a great writer!!! Keeping you and your family in my thoughts.

Jennifer said...

Thinking of you today, Megan. We still do extra Jack kisses all the time.

And you've got my vote! (Now, what's your stand on term limits? ;-)

Jennifer said...

Oh, and don't sell yourself short. You are a wonderful writer with a true, honest and distinct voice. (And I'm a professional!)

Elizabeth said...

I'm a silent reader most of the time, but I wanted to let you know I voted--your kids--all three--are so precious, and I absolutely love reading about them.

Gillian said...

You know you've got my vote.. and I lit a candle for your precious Jack, and for those I know who've suffered losses.. my heart and hugs go out to you all.

DianeTaylor said...

God Bless your sweet angel baby, Jack :):)
God bless my babies in heaven - Mommy loves you so much :)
To all who have suffered a loss like this, peace be with you today and all the days of your life.
And I voted for you!!!!! I totaly love you blog, this is my first time posting a comment. Your girls are precious and funny and make me laugh out loud sometimes!
Thanks for writing this blog and sharing your adventues with K and C and esp Jack.

Sarah said...

Thank you for remembering Abigail. That means a lot to me.

sweetsalty kate said...

So touched to read this, on this of all days, and so grateful for the encouragement for Glow. I feel so blessed to have a part in it.

It's raining today where I am, and cold, and so I'm sitting here in front of a fire and thinking of all our babies, and of all of us gathered together, and it warms me up.

Thank you so, so much. You're a lovely writer too, you know.

sweetsalty kate said...

Wait, that sounded weird. Like I'm calling myself a lovely writer. Didn't mean to do that. I think I need either english lessons or my glasses or another cup of tea.

Joe said...

I have to admit, even though my wife and I would love the prize money, we're both pulling for you to win! You deserve it.


Anonymous said...

I'm a Glow fan, too. I was sent here from Facebook to vote for you :) by a friend who loves your blog. Now I've started reading it, too!

Sending best wishes,
(Mommy to angel ^Jonathan^, his miracle twin Joshua, and Jaydan the surprise)

Anonymous said...

You have such a great blog! I love to read it regularly. =)

If you don't mind my asking, what's your reasoning for keeping a blog? I have one right now, but I haven't been using it and I'm trying to decide if I want to keep it.

Alisha said...

So sad that the list got longer too.

Heather said...

God bless your sweet Jack! Congrats on winning the contest!