tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-343380832398786643.post4804959721344037329..comments2023-09-22T07:33:38.525-04:00Comments on Multiple Baby Pileup: The Griefmrsgingergrlhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10604616856908589452noreply@blogger.comBlogger81125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-343380832398786643.post-15462441338348975512008-01-21T19:56:00.000-05:002008-01-21T19:56:00.000-05:00i just wanted to say that this blog is such a wond...i just wanted to say that this blog is such a wonderful tribute to your son. i am currently pregnant with twins and often worry if i will have the strength to deal with the NICU and all the other things that could happen...then i read your blog and see how you have turned this horrible time in your life into such an opportunity to make a difference in the lives of other children. it is Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-343380832398786643.post-87123480985027771662008-01-21T11:02:00.000-05:002008-01-21T11:02:00.000-05:00as always, still praying for you. That God lifts t...as always, still praying for you. That God lifts that burden of grief, even if only for a little while.tbonegrlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15051899488480345902noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-343380832398786643.post-66147351964999406302008-01-20T02:08:00.000-05:002008-01-20T02:08:00.000-05:00Oh Megan.....I cannot even begin to imagine the sh...Oh Megan.....I cannot even begin to imagine the sheer pain and the pure joy you must be feeling all at once. How strange to be mourning the loss of your beloved son and rejoicing in the life of your beloved daughters....<BR/><BR/>I'm so so so sorry for your loss. I'm a mother myself, to a beautiful and healthy baby girl. Your strength amazes me, and inspires me to be a better mother.<BR/><BR/>Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-343380832398786643.post-62242060772223499992008-01-19T21:19:00.000-05:002008-01-19T21:19:00.000-05:00I've been following your story for a few months no...I've been following your story for a few months now. You've really grabbed my heart. 30 years and 7 months ago my first child ( a little girl who lived 9 weeks) died. It was a very bad time and I can tell you one child can never replace another, but I had another little girl to raise. Crying at unusual times becomes a way of life. On what would have been my first daughter's graduation day, whitelabeladyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18262384760158571914noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-343380832398786643.post-46109383632781712912008-01-17T23:10:00.000-05:002008-01-17T23:10:00.000-05:00Oh Megan, I know that grief. It still lingers in...Oh Megan, I know that grief. It still lingers in me. Your life is never the same. You long for the way you used to be. You ask "why me?" You try to be nice to people who don't know your real story.<BR/><BR/>I know my situation is different, but I'm still grieving almost 9 months later. Wondering if I did the right thing.<BR/><BR/>I wish you peace and healing.<BR/><BR/>Your girls are precious.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-343380832398786643.post-57280814347691645432008-01-17T17:39:00.000-05:002008-01-17T17:39:00.000-05:00It just amazes me how you are able to write so bea...It just amazes me how you are able to write so beautifully even through these hard times. Thank you so much for taking the time to put your feelings into words. Every time I read your blog it reminds me to not take my healthy baby for granted.<BR/>Nestie LissaLeeAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-343380832398786643.post-41143464602143968592008-01-17T16:27:00.000-05:002008-01-17T16:27:00.000-05:00Megan I have not been online much recently. I just...Megan I have not been online much recently. I just caught up on your last 2 posts. I just want you to know I am thinking of you. I hope that as time passes, grief will find its way out the door. <BR/>You write beutifully, I really enjoy reading your blog.<BR/>Robin/whirlygalRobinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13818799999796147502noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-343380832398786643.post-87106259103221843512008-01-17T16:24:00.000-05:002008-01-17T16:24:00.000-05:00This comment has been removed by the author.Robinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13818799999796147502noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-343380832398786643.post-72634358018429956942008-01-17T07:47:00.000-05:002008-01-17T07:47:00.000-05:00Megan- tons of hugs, vibes and prayers your way fo...Megan- tons of hugs, vibes and prayers your way for continued strength. The girls are getting so big!<BR/><BR/>GinnyAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-343380832398786643.post-69634803842056117762008-01-17T01:25:00.000-05:002008-01-17T01:25:00.000-05:00Your girls are beautiful.I know the Grief you're d...Your girls are beautiful.<BR/>I know the Grief you're describing. I have to warn you, it gets worse with time. People keep telling me time will heal, but so far, it's not. I wasn't prepared for it to get worse, so I'm telling you not to be mean, but to warn you so you can try to prepare yourself. I'm so sorry.<BR/>It's the oddest feeling, to be so elated with the healthy beautiful survivors, Amandahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16207821398886544502noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-343380832398786643.post-26439677032054498972008-01-16T17:55:00.000-05:002008-01-16T17:55:00.000-05:00It won't always feel like it does today. It won't...It won't always feel like it does today. It won't ever hurt more than it has the last couple of weeks. But it takes time...time to heal, time to let yourself move forward, time to accept what's happened.<BR/><BR/>It's okay to tell people "Actually, they are triplets, but we lost our son", if it helps you. You don't have to go into lengthy explanations if you don't want to...but at least you Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-343380832398786643.post-89992663651742016492008-01-16T16:13:00.000-05:002008-01-16T16:13:00.000-05:00I hope your wonderful ability to express yourself ...I hope your wonderful ability to express yourself brings you comfort and peace. I'm very touched by your experience. And by Jack.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-343380832398786643.post-79434826269484948192008-01-16T11:28:00.000-05:002008-01-16T11:28:00.000-05:00I wanted to tell how much your story has touched m...I wanted to tell how much your story has touched me and everyone I have told about it. Your writing is articulate and accurate about the experience of loss. I read this last entry to my mom who lost two daughters and she just nodded along as I read it to her because you truly captured what grief is. You are an amazing person. I have learned so much from and haven't even met you.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-343380832398786643.post-30976199210127990732008-01-16T10:19:00.000-05:002008-01-16T10:19:00.000-05:00Jack, a little boy I never knewYet those blue eyes...Jack, a little boy I never knew<BR/>Yet those blue eyes, your angelic-like face<BR/>Enveloped me like a rainbow’s magnificent hue<BR/>Little angel please rest, so many loved you<BR/>Family and friends awaited your big debut<BR/>Your life, your love, you touched us dearly...<BR/><BR/>I mourn for the little boy I’ve never met<BR/>Because you had such a remarkable effect<BR/>So give all the angel Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-343380832398786643.post-16171818993770940752008-01-16T06:36:00.000-05:002008-01-16T06:36:00.000-05:00First, your girls look excellent. Healthy and ful...First, your girls look excellent. Healthy and full of life. And I know for that you feel blessed. I found this month's entry so touching...the way you talk about Grief. It hit me when you mentioned being somewhere and somebody commenting that you had "twins". Oh, my heart aches for you and your husband. I do hope the two of you find peace one day. I felt the need to mention to you, and Christinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09431970559565880440noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-343380832398786643.post-29406168404019200682008-01-15T22:29:00.000-05:002008-01-15T22:29:00.000-05:00Megan, I continue to have you and your family in m...Megan, I continue to have you and your family in my thoughts and prayers. No mother should have to go through what you have been through. You are an amazingly strong person. <BR/><BR/>God Bless!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-343380832398786643.post-38640594865185010152008-01-15T20:09:00.000-05:002008-01-15T20:09:00.000-05:00Just breathe.....you will make it through............Just breathe.....you will make it through.........just breathe......Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-343380832398786643.post-20890133896221579602008-01-15T18:43:00.000-05:002008-01-15T18:43:00.000-05:00Hi Megan, Just sending you warm thoughts and hugs ...Hi Megan, <BR/>Just sending you warm thoughts and hugs . . . just want to echo others in saying that you are so strong and amazing. The way you are working through/with your grief is incredible, and however you reconcile it in your life - it is truly incredible and shows your unconditional love for Jack and your girls. <BR/><BR/>I'm also sending special vibes to your husband today . . . please Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-343380832398786643.post-5694901574213110642008-01-15T17:55:00.000-05:002008-01-15T17:55:00.000-05:00This entry has me sobbing. Especially knowing tha...This entry has me sobbing. Especially knowing that you will have the "oh twin girls" comment throughout your life. Jack understands.....he was wiser than all of us. God Bless you honey. Your son and family has touched me deeply. I did a blog about him if you would like to read it here:<BR/>http://mynewnormal.blogspot.com/2008/01/shame-on-me.html<BR/><BR/>The girls are growing so much and arePatyrishhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02001544727042582614noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-343380832398786643.post-90037032109319428252008-01-15T16:52:00.000-05:002008-01-15T16:52:00.000-05:00Your girls are beautiful. And so was Jack. It's ...Your girls are beautiful. And so was Jack. It's okay to just think about him and not tell everyone who thinks they are twins. Don't ever feel guilty for making it easier on yourself. Remember that yes, your children have been through a lot, but so have you and your Husband. Take time for each other and grieve as long as you need. You're strong, so much stronger than you believe.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-343380832398786643.post-26048368061722074632008-01-15T16:29:00.000-05:002008-01-15T16:29:00.000-05:00Megan, I hate that you have to go through this gre...Megan,<BR/> I hate that you have to go through this greif for all of us to appreciate life and our children so much more. It is evident though you are a strong person, and like the Blessed Mother, God CHOSE you to be the mother of a VERY SPECIAL child. He knew you would love Jack whole heartedly and return him to heaven when his time on earth was over. I (and so many others) are praying for you Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-343380832398786643.post-78124179069340152292008-01-15T16:05:00.000-05:002008-01-15T16:05:00.000-05:00Your strength will guide you through this journey....Your strength will guide you through this journey. I can not imagine what grief you have at this time, but you and your family are in my thoughts and prayer!!!<BR/>God Bless!!!<BR/>Elyse HahneAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-343380832398786643.post-51604727457056070922008-01-15T16:04:00.000-05:002008-01-15T16:04:00.000-05:00You and PJ are in my thoughts. I hope you find so...You and PJ are in my thoughts. I hope you find some comfort through all of this.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-343380832398786643.post-488873079935977782008-01-15T14:57:00.001-05:002008-01-15T14:57:00.001-05:00Megan,I do know grief. Not the grief of losing a ...Megan,<BR/>I do know grief. Not the grief of losing a child, which is the worst grief of all, but that of losing a mother.<BR/>Your description of grief was so right on. I used to describe it as coming in waves. Some days, it would just lap at my toes. It was there, I could feel it, but I could get through the day. Other days, it would be a tsunami. Those were the days I'd stay in bed most ofAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-343380832398786643.post-66671496405835284852008-01-15T14:57:00.000-05:002008-01-15T14:57:00.000-05:00I am amazed at how eliquent you are. I think it is...I am amazed at how eliquent you are. I think it is a tribute to Jack that you are able to share your feelings. I pray that you may find a little more peace with each passing day.<BR/>Love,<BR/>Tara njbride2000tAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com